He’s Not a Mind Reader
And Other Brilliant Insights for a Fabulous First Year of Marriage
Publisher: Standard Publishing
Reviewer: Discerning Reader Team
I knew that I was destined to read and review He’s Not a Mind Reader as soon as I cracked the cover of Put the Seat Down, the book-at-hand’s companion for the males of the species. I was intrigued on many levels: Would it be as insightful for women as the other is for men? Would it impart complementary wisdom in as winsome a way? Would its cartoons be as amusing? Although the woman’s guide (officially “a girl’s guide” according to the cover and the copyright information) is obviously different in terms of content, and author Garrison has a style all her own, I can report that it matches the version for males page for page.
If you have read the afore-linked review, you are already ahead of the game and I will not repeat myself ad nauseam here. The two books naturally share stylistic and formatting particulars, and Garrison’s was just as fun and beneficial to read as MacCallum’s. I wasn’t nearly as convicted by this book, probably owing to the fact that I fail to fall within the parameters of its target audience! Still, even after twelve years of marriage I did gain insights into heretofore unfathomed feminine rationale that I now understand ‘ in part, please understand, only and ever in part.
A few notes on the chapters ‘ and this is not a spoiler, I assure you, because you are able to view as much using Amazon’s “look inside” feature. Like MacCallum’s book, Garrison pulls no punches. The title of chapter four is far and away my favorite: “It’s your body, but he gets to look at it.” The chapter itself doesn’t disappoint either. Every chapter illumines an area of married life in which far too many men and women make dangerous assumptions.
This is also a personal book. Garrison has incorporated a healthy dose of personal stories into the narrative (and the book is indeed narrated, comfortably conversational in tone) which aids authorial authenticity and authority. I also appreciated that more than once Garrison mentioned the stories were shared with her husband’s permission.
Apart from a strange little quote about self-esteem and self-worth in the very first chapter, I found absolutely nothing to disagree with in this book. Like its male counterpart, it would be an excellent premarital resource for a young woman who “doesn’t read.” If it’s too late for premarital counseling, it would also make an excellent wedding gift or housewarming gift. You may just save a young woman from years of wondering why her loving husband can never seem to catch on to what he is supposed to do and to be in her eyes.